5 simple steps to take charge of your money

Our relationship with money is one we shy away from. In fact, most of us wish it would just manage itself. In all my years of working in various corporates, I have often found young men and women struggle with understanding tax basics to comparing notes on how little they actually have left in their accounts on the 15th of the month. The common myth is that ‘I am not earning enough — how am I even expected to save?’ The truth is far from that. Every small bit counts. One of the most successful investors of all time, Warren Buffet says, “It is not necessary to do extraordinary things to get extraordinary results”.

The journey from scarcity to abundance is only a few steps away

1. Save first, spend later: 

As soon as the paycheck arrives, instead of thinking of what you shall indulge yourself with, put aside your monthly savings — ideally, at least 20% of your income. This is as critical as wearing a seat belt while driving — incase of sudden jerks, the seat belt keeps you safe and secure. It might feel unnecessary and binding, but don’t be fooled. This saving will keep you safe.

Don’t tell me what you value. Show me your budget and I’ll tell you what you value. ~ Joe Biden

2. Spend on what matters: 

Watch your spending behaviour just for a month and you will begin to see a pattern. Sometimes we spend on things which don’t bring us joy or satisfaction, and end up sacrificing on purchases which would have added so much more to our lives. How about trading that excess shopping with a short holiday budget? Consciously choosing what we spend our hard-earned money on, goes a long way in bringing a sense of fulfillment from our earnings.

“Too many people spend money they earned to buy things they don’t want to impress people that they don’t like.” ~ Will Rogers

3. Tax Saving: Invest in understanding the various tax-saving options under Sec 80 C— from what is covered under the Rs 1.5 Lakh limit to additional benefits of Medical Insurance, Education Loan, Donations. Take help of those around you who have knowledge or read articles or watch videos to stay abreast.Understanding your taxes is not optional — and it is not complicated either. Efficiently managing tax will amount to the much needed increase in your cash-in-hand as well as avoid last minute panic of making investments which you don’t fully understand or need.

4. Accumulate an Emergency Fund: 
Your emergency fund is you safety net in case of a crisis. This should ideally be three to six months of monthly spends which should be parked aside as an FD or in a savings account as available cash for unforeseen situations. While one always has family and friends in times of need, it would give you added confidence and a sense of control over your finances, knowing that you can ride through on your own.

5. Watch out for debt: 
Debt enters our life mostly in harmless forms like credit cards, education loans, car loan, EMIs for furnishing your new home, home loan, borrowing from close friends or family to tide over a trying financial time, and so on.Often we find comfort in the knowledge that we are not alone. Debt is the new norm to sustain our desired lifestyle. However, we often forget that postponing payment for today’s luxuries is bound to catch up with us. Stay away from debt taken for luxuries and excesses. If you already have indulged, plan your way out of it today. It’s just like resisting that extra piece of cake because you know ‘once on the lips, forever on the hips’. Taking debt to leverage cash-in-hand towards higher return generating assets is the only plausible logic for allowing it to enter our lives — if you are not clear about the above statement, you are possibly not ready to take on any debt yet :)

“Some debts are fun when you are acquiring them, but none are fun when you set about retiring them.” ~ Ogden Nash

4 Life-changing Money Lessons from Rich Dad Poor Dad

There are a few books which leave an ever lasting impact on our minds — I would even go as far as admitting, they could alter the course of our lives. 

Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki is one of those gems which I first happened to read when I was 19 years old. It opened my eyes to concepts of Wealth Creation, Personal Finance, Assets & Liabilities, and more than anything else, to innumerable possibilities, only if I learnt to make my money work for me.

I recently re-read this classic and it offered a new dimension this time. After more than a decade long relationship with money, I realized how hard it was to really practice money discipline. Admittedly, despite having some knowledge of basic money principles, I found myself stuck in the ‘Rat Race’ still.

Here is sharing 4 ideas which stayed with me from the book along with a short roadmap which helps me implement these learnings.

1. Know the difference between ASSETS and LIABILITIES
   Robert simplifies these terms — Assets are what bring money IN and liabilities are what take money OUT of your pocket. Period.
   This made me reflect on the fancy bags, clothes, shoes, car, which were merely liabilities (in financial terms) — of course, they were much required, however, they did not count as Assets.

It also talks about buying a house purely to live in it — which again is not considered an asset — however, he maintains that it is often a highly debated subject since most people are emotional about owning their own home. 

2. The Rich Invent Money

“Why not seek to learn more than earn more.” ~ Robert Kiyosaki

Robert strongly recommends Upskilling, clearly calling out four key skills which include accounting, understanding taxation, marketing and negotiation. The rich often groom their children to understand various departments to get an overall understanding of business.

To make money work for us requires us to get out of the emotions of fear and greed and think logically.

3. Choosing your network wisely
No man is an island. Any drastic change requires support from those close to us, from professionals and from like-minded people. Don’t listen to the ‘Chicken Little about the Sky is Falling’ theory — there will always be cynics who will talk about all that is bad in the world. Instead, communicate with the enterprising ones around you who are on the path of wealth creation. 

4. Making DAILY choices

Our spending habits reflect who we are and our values. What we choose to do with our time and what we see, hear and consume everyday impacts these habits.

“If you want to be rich it’s important that you understand the power of choice and know how to make good financial choices.” ~ Robert Kiyosaki

Most of us struggle financially not because of what we know, but because of what we do not know. The book talks about the basic money principle of‘Pay yourself first’ and the power of ‘self control’.

Do you have money goals? Is there a book that has altered the way you think about money? Are you a Robert Kiyosaki fan like me? Share your thoughts as a comment!

I asked over 100 Indian women what they did with their money

… and this is what I found

Since I have a fondness of understanding investor behavior apart from reading regularly about personal finance, I came across a study by Merrill Lynch in 2014 about ‘Women and Investing: A Behaviour Finance Perspective’. The report covers gender comparatives across various aspects including:

Mindset towards risk, approach towards investing and defining purpose of investments.

Here is how the report’s first para reads:

“According to new Merrill Lynch research, gender differences among investors tend to be overstated. In fact, the ways in which men and women approach their financial lives are often strikingly similar. Understanding who they are as investors can help women better focus on ways to successfully work toward their personal goals.”

This made me pause and think. How did women closer home really think about money? How did they go about their investments? I put out a short 10-question survey of my own and circulated amongst those around me, closer to my community of Urban Indian Middle Class women.

I received around 120 responses within 48 hours — and here are is the broad demographic summary:

• 65% of these women were between 25–45 years of age (30% were 25–35 yrs old, 35% were 35–45 yrs old)
• 76% of these women earned their own money either through a full-time job, their own business or freelance work

So these were primarily earning women, under-45 years.

Here are the overall findings of the survey:

• Only 19% of the women who had a source of income, save or invest first and spend what is left.
• Over 60% of the women who took this survey had planned for a financial goal in the last 12 months, but when it came to taking assistance for investment decisions to meet such goals, only 25% used professionals — the majority going with the comfort of advice from friends and family.
• The biggest challenge this group faced was the lack of understanding of financial products (25%), followed by the lack of personalized advice
• Their current portfolio included mostly Fixed Income products and Real Estate.
• The 40% who had not set a financial goal in the last 1 year, were the ones clearly dependent on family and friends for advice or did not take any financial decisions. This segment clearly called out that they ‘did not care’ about managing money and found it too tedious. 40% of them admitted that they did not understand financial products and felt goal-less.
• Interestingly, 50% of those surveyed would like to learn about Effective Budgeting, Money Management Ideas, Goal-Based Financial Planning. Only a handful mentioned product-specific literacy (the highest being in Mutual Funds).

Here is what I took away from this early, and of course, limited dataset study:

• Most of these women had financial goals and interest in their money, but hand-holding was missing
• Most of these women lacked knowledge of basic money and investment principles
• They preferred the close connect with family and friends on this subject versus professionals/investment communities
• They definitely wanted to learn about Money Management and Goal- Based Planning — maybe not specifically about each product right away

This short survey made me feel connected, even more, to so many women around me, like me, who work so hard to earn and are seeking answers on how to make their money work for them.

I am not yet sure how women are different than men as investors, but I feel confident now, more than before, that there are oh-so-many who are ready to truly work towards financial independence in the truest sense!

If you are an Indian women on this journey with me, drop a hello in the comments!

The Son-in-law

She planted the bright Red Bindi on her forehead, gave herself a selfie-smile as she admired her newly married look. 'Are you ready Ria, the guests will be here soon' called out her brand new Mummyji. It was her first big family dinner in her new home as the Bahu. Rushing out into the living room, looking like the 'poster bride', she was ready to embrace this new life.'Looking lovely Ria - now let me tell you what you need to bring out the snacks in.' She was going to host her new family and win over their hearts today - not only by never letting their plates go empty, but by saying the right things, all the while smiling pleasantly. And so she did.

Few days later, as she adjusted her pink bangles, getting ready to head off for another family dinner - this time at her parents' house, Mummyji called out "Ria, hope you are not wearing the diamond set beta". She again presented herself in the living room - to ensure she looked like the 'well taken care of' bride. They reached her parents house and she realised how she had missed home. Her mom hugged her tight - stepped back to admire her daughter's clothes, but actually discreetly checking for the happiness in her daughter's eyes. But she couldn't look too long, because The Son-In-Law had arrived. "Oh come beta, make yourself comfortable - Ria make sure Aryan eats the snacks while they are hot".

This was not the first time Ria had been told to ensure that Aryan was served hot food. But usually,she heard it from her in-laws or their relatives. It was just when she heard it from her own mother that Ria paused to reflect about 'The Son in law' phenomena. 

Why was it that Aryan seemed to be the first priority in his and her home? She did not recollect her mother-in-law asking Aryan to offer Ria hot food in all these days that she had moved into her married home.In fact, neither had she herself asked Ria about her favorite dishes yet. Just as she was brushing her thoughts aside, telling herself that she was over thinking it - she heard her mother say "Arre, Aryan, have made your favorite kadai paneer today. Will pack some for you also beta." No, it wasn't a bubble, this Son in Law phenomena was for real. And it was here to stay.

"Aryan,do you know mummyji hasn't even asked me about my favorite dishes yet, and mom not only knows how much you love kadai paneer but she even packed it for you!" Aryan looked puzzled. "Are you seriously fussing about this?You can just tell mummy what you like and she will get it cooked. Stop being so dramatic Ria." Ria kept trying to explain how she felt he was the centre of everyone's Universe but all Aryan could her was complaints. This was their first fight as a married couple.The first of many.

It was then that Ria realized that she would now be benchmarked always as a wife and a daughter-in-law.She had not only bid goodbye to her parents and her home, but also to a life where she was the first priority for anyone.

If Aryan did anything extra for her, both the sets of parents would make sure to praise it on the dinner table. And if Ria missed one of her do's, both the sets of parents made sure to raise it on the dinner table. 

When they had their first baby, Aryan and Ria made sure they divided their baby work amongst themselves without much interference from their families. If Ria travelled for work, and Aryan took care of the baby, many a relative would speak highly of Aryan being not only a fantastic parent but an even better husband who let his wife continue pursuing a career. On other days, Ria would continue to do her many chores without as much as a word of praise.After all she was just doing her duty. 

On days that Ria's family visited their home, and Aryan cooked them some hot snacks, he was lauded as being the perfect host and Ria to be the lucky one who could never have dreamt of a better partner.Her mother would praise the way that Aryan took care of them, and treated them just like his own family.T he Son in Law had won.He had after all not only been cordial and friendly, but also taken a step ahead to show his love by taking to the kitchen.

On days when Aryan 's family visited their home, and Aryan brought out the snacks, his mother quickly rushed to help out in the kitchen,assuming that Ria's inefficiency had forced Aryan to not only make the snacks but also serve them! Her mother in law lovingly pointed out to the dusty fans and said that Ria needed to be more vigilant with the maids. Ria had again fallen short of being the Perfect Daughter In Law.

She wondered what made her feel worse - giving more than her 100% & still not being able to live up to her in-laws benchmarks or Aryan doing so easily winning the heart of her own family. It was then that Ria realized that the benchmarks for the Daughter in Law and the Son in Law were so incomparable, that Ria never stood a chance. Aryan was after all the prodigal son and The Son-in-law. 

Life Hacks-From Mummy to Baby- Hack#2

 Hack #2 - Empathy

Dear J

As we wrapped up the day, and you asked for my hand - like everyday and a story - like everyday, I refused today because of a terrible throatache. Like everytime, you decided to pull out the 'crying incessantly' card on me again. But this time, I didn't budge. I let you cry yourself to sleep. This is pre-mature I know, but I think you need mumma to tell you about empathy.

As your mum, everyday I do atleast 1 thing which discomforts me, to make sure you're comfortable. This is what parents do. Maybe we would continue to. But as you grow older,remember that without empathy & care, you will find it impossible to forge any real relationship. Because everyone has a tough day, a tough week,a tough month or a tough year - but as a daughter, friend, partner or spouse, if you end up looking for only your piece of the pie, my dear, you'll probably be eating the pie all alone. 

Before you grow up to believe that 'your wish is our command' - let me burst the Disney bubble for you, princess. Not everytime.

Love and care is a two-way street. You give some, you get some.Just don't keep a scoreboard.Try to empathize with someone else's situation by putting yourself in their shoes before you decide to judge them.It's only when you can truly empathize with people that you will find it in your heart to give without wanting in return.Giving is much more powerful and fulfilling,my darling, than receiving. There might be times that other see your unconditional giving as a sign of your weakness or even something they can take advantage of, make sure you keep your distance from those people.But don't get disheartened. Empathy is an underrated value - very hard to practice and equally hard to find. But it will surely give you a happier and healthier heart.

So, the next time I'm unwell, hold my hand and tuck me in with a story. 

Love

Your non-selfless mumma :) 

Changing the Career Gear

I heard the ‘Sunscreen’ song after a long time yesterday. The beauty of that song is that at any stage of my life, be it when I heard it for the first time in college or now, there is atleast one stanza which is relevant for that very moment. Here is what stayed with me :

“ Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want  to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives.Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know, still don’t.”

Looking for a career shift is definitely challenging – having done it myself, I speak from experience. Career shifts could be driven by internal factors (such as to find something more aligned to your preferences) or by external influences (the changing dynamics of business & employment opportunities in the world). Once you have identified potential industries/roles for the shift, here are a few tips to make the journey smoother :

      1)  Be Patient – While we are a society which reaches late everywhere, somehow when it comes to career moves, we value speed over everything else. Probably, it emanates from our culture of comparative success. ‘She managed to make a career shift in 2 months – you’re smarter, I’m sure you will make it in a month’. No, this is not a race. Take your time to decide why you want to make this career shift, how it would play over the next few years and which would be your preferred employers. In the need for speed, we sometimes overlook our unique needs and aspirations from our career. Focus inward and keep at it.

      2)   Prepare, Prepare, Prepare –If there is one thing you can control in this dynamic career situation, it’s the preparation for this new role. While a lot of work must have already happened while deciding the next steps, preparation for an interview requires some structure :

a. Subscribe to industry-specific newsletters – Reading about the latest happenings would give you newer insights, and also come in handy while answering questions like “What do you think needs improvement and how?” or even “What’s your take on this problem? How would you approach it?” Most companies are looking for innovative fresh perspective, rather than the ‘has-been-this-way-always’ way of thinking. Being an enthusiastic,eager-to-learn candidate is a definite plus.

b. Read the Job Description carefully – Most of the interview questions are fairly evident from the job description itself. The critical thing is to sew together your skills from your past experience into the role requirements. Make this specific with situations/projects which will help connect the dots for the interviewer. This is possibly the most time-consuming part of the preparation, but the most critical.

c.Interact with people from that industry - Most probably your understanding of the role would be half-baked and more glamorous than the job itself, but speaking to as many people from that industry would throw up keen insights. These will not only prepare you better for the upcoming interview but also allow you to have a set of follow up questions for the interviewer. This is another big plus in showing your interest and initiative to take up the role.

3) Create a list of transferable skills - No role in a new career will fit right into your resume at first look. But if you spend time keenly on jotting down each and every skill you have acquired in your past stints, there is high likelihood of finding some transferable skills which could be easily applicable in this myriad new career. Were you part of a sales team in the Banking industry - where you prospected new customers, converted them to achieve sales targets? An example of a transferable skill,relevant to many industries or part of roles involving business development & client interaction.Most times the skill would not be exactly replicated, however, having the skill laundry list in place is critical to stitch the relevance of current experience into the new career you're aspiring for. Even if it means highlighting a small part of your current experience which you enjoy, are good at and want to focus or enhance, and hence, the new shift.

4) Don't be afraid to reach out -The first step to trying anything new is to drop the baggage of 'what will they think'. If there is someone who could help you with landing a role or mentor you about the industry of your choice, reach out to them. Irrespective of seniority, pedigree, background, etc. Sometimes all we need to do is ask.There might be some who don't respond,there might be some who respond and politely decline, but there would also be those who step forward willingly. 

Any change takes time and focussed effort. Don't forget to keep away the negativities and remember that once you're on a new glorious career path, you will pat yourself on the back for the journey! I surely did!

Life Hacks-From Mummy to Baby

Hack # 1- The Happy Place

Dear J

Life is short and unpredictable but everyday, if we step aside from the daily conundrum for just a minute & keep one memory of that day alive in our hearts, very soon we will have a bag full of moments which made us feel alive.

That's probably why mumma loves vacations. It's the time of the year to enjoy the smallest measure of life,like staring at the moon gradually go down behind the huge palms with the gentle background music of the waves hitting the shore. And then, suddenly, that moment finds a place in your heart as your happy place. This is therapy for your soul and just when you feel like the world is a horrible place, just close your eyes & go to your happy place. It will keep you going, even when mumma is not around to comfort you.

Don't let anyone fool you into believing that happiness is money in the bank or jewellery in the locker. Happiness is your collection of happy moments - it's like a little library in your heart - which you retire to as the years close. Money is just a facilitator. Because after you have felt the water on your feet in the middle of the night at the beach or seen the glorious sunrise in the mountains or cycled through paddy fields in a summer afternoon or enjoyed the vast valley view from a hillside and heard the sound of quietness, after you have taken a moment to drop the future or the past, and soak in the present, will you truly feel the meaning of happy.

Because happiness,my baby, doesn't come at an asking price.It simple wants us to be.So your happy moment could happen over a weekend getaway to the hills on a shoe-string budget, or a luxury vacation you spent a monthly salary on - but I assure you that it would never happen, if you forget to count your blessings. If you forget to enjoy the moment.If you don't let your heart drown the noise and sing it's own sweet song. 

Breathe.Life is short.Make memories.Find your happy place.

Love
Mumma